Women Only: Why changes in marriage/ How to bring back spark?

[jman21]

Basicly I want my wife back. You all know the story, things great at first, After marrage everything slides, Going out, apperance,and sex. I'm just tired of the bed time at 10:00 cause she's tired. I've tried talking to her she's happy with our boring lifestyle.
I'm 26 she's 33. Thank for the offers about the cooking and cleaning but I do all that already(she can't cook to save herself) as well as spend most of the time w/ the kids. I've asked about the babysitter thing but I think she feels she don't see them enough. Oh we both work so I don't see the problem.

[Anna L]

What do you expect. Marriage is not a fairy tale. It's not always sparks and roller coasters. Life is hard. There's work, kids, bills, etc... DEAL WITH IT!!!

[~leaving traces~]

If you've tried talking to her and she blows you off, I'm not sure what you can do to change this. Maybe she doesn't realize how serious this is for you. You need to make sure to make her aware of that. If she cares about you, she'll listen. If she doesn't then you will need to take care of yourself in this deal too, however you have to. I would say try surprising her with little notes dropped in her car. Tell her how beautiful she is to you. Tell her you really miss her. Try to take her on surprise dates. If you have kids, arrange a sitter, and go out JUST the two of you. Help her around the house to show her you care that she's tired, and want to make things better for her. If none of this works, then the ball is back in your court, and you have to decide if you can deal with it or not.