Marriage, family or no family invited?

[Sonia S]

I am getting married later on in the year but the problem is that even though I see my family I dont get on with them at all..... In all honesty I would rather they just didnt come (some more so than others) but as they are my immediate family its a difficult situation. I couldnt invite some and not others but I dont want to be made to feel uncomfortable on my wedding day, it might sound selfish but they are nothing like me and I dont want to feel embaressed because of them and their behaviour ,every time we are in each others company they make me feel uncomfortable and irritated. I couldnt even talk to them about how I feel because they wouldnt even understand or probably care, what can I do? This as I said is my immediate family, so any ideas?
Marrying abroad isnt really an option as my partners family is big and we get on really well and i would want them to be there which wouldnt really be possible.... but good suggestion

[Tiana]

Don't invite them if you don't want to.

It's YOU AND YOUR FIANCE'S special day and if you would perfer they don't come, don't invite them.

As for inviting some, but not the rest, not a very good idea. You are right, they will feel uncomfortable and will probably tell the others which will cause fights.

Send them a card after the wedding annoucing your marriage and send a picture of you and your groom. If they call or send e-mails demanding why they weren't invited just say that you haven't felt to close to them lately.

Good luck and congrats on the big day!

[uofmfan101]

get over it and invite ur family

[OZZIEGAL]

i so understand what you are going through, and if i had to do it all over again i can tell you true, with my hand on the bible and facing God himself, i would never have had my family at my wedding or even knowing about the wedding. they were horrible.
now, if you don't invite them to your wedding are they going to throw it in your face for the next forty years every time there is a disagreement over anything? if they are that type and if it would upset you every time they brought it up then it might be easier just to invite them and have it done with.
if they don't care at all and wouldn't bother you with it, then i wouldn't invite them, and btw, i wouldn't even tell them when and where. just in case...........
if you can afford it, and your man's family can afford it, then consider a destination wedding. somewhere your family couldn't go! would that work? atlantic city, vegas, the poconos, just somewhere away. it doesn't have to be overseas or even outside your state.
or you could elope, just you and your man wander off and get married, come home and its a done deal. either way you could have a reception at home for his family and all your friends!
whatever you choose, stay strong, stay focused, ignore the naysayers and have a happy wedding! good luck sweetie!

[fizzy stuff]

We cannot choose our families. And it sounds like you have some issues with yours, unbeknownst to them. If its just that you dont really like them, or they are kind of embarrassing, thats really not a huge deal- and if deep down you really love them, dont exclude them from this important day.

If however they will cause trouble or start fights, thats another story and maybe you should think about having a private ceremony.

Just a question for you: If you exclude them, will they care? Do they genuinely want to see you get married?

[theologygirl]

Have a destination wedding. Some packages are quite affordable (don't know if that's an issue or not). Go ahead an tell them that you're getting married in Maui or Mexico or wherever and that they are welcome to attend if they can make it. If you are not really close to them it's unlikely they'll want to spend the money and take the time off work necessary to attend. Voila, you've invited them for the sake of family peace, and you still get to get married without them.