how do you rebuild youre marriage after youre spouse cheats?

[jennifer n]

hi my names jen im been maried 20years and been with my hubby for 26 years.i always thought we had the perfect love story we have two kids age 13 twins we had everything until 11 days ago my hubby told me he cheated on me three years ago and fathered a child with the other women.it took him three years to confess becuase of the child and he was afraid id leave him.i am so hurt & my kids are to i am ripped apart over this the worse thing is he bought the child over the next day after he told me i dont even know if its his for sure,i am demanding a dna test to know for sure he claims he snapped form financial pressures and me becoming seriously ill he had a mid life crisis ..he is being open letting me see his emails a phone logs he has answred all my questions regaurding the affair.he been home early and calls me to tell me were he is at all times.hes trying to comfort me and be there but how do we get pssed this and how do we deal with the other child in our lives can we save it.