Living arrangments for first years of marriage?

[K K]

I am getting married this summer and have been offered a room at half the rent of an apartment for me and my future husband. We will be living in a basement - one room, we will have our own bathroom but share a kitchen with the owner of the house. Since im still in school, it will save us enough to pay each year of tuition and I will come out of school debt free. We will be staying there about 4 years. My only concern is how it might affect the first years of our marriage - is living in one room in a persons basement for the first few years going to ruin the 'newlywed' feel? Would we be better off being in a little more debt to have our own apartment? Anyone else have any expierences like this?

[C-DOGG]

Just go with the arrangement, if your happy who cares. If your not then you move out. Don't sign a four year basement lease!

[tina]

I have to ask why are you getting married when you certainly can not afford it? Does not make sense. You are going to jeopardize your marriage by living in a basement in someones home in 1 room. Sorry can't see it working out.

[Flaca_in_Az]

Honestly I wouldn't get married until I finish with school and all the finances are in place.I used to live in a studio by myself for almost 5 yrs. Waited still everything was in place before taking the big step.New house , new job...etc..etc...Now we are happily married and taking care of the house and important things in our marriage. Is not easy the 1st few yrs. Depends on how you are planning to handle the stress from school and marriage. Is up to you.
Good luck!

[Still Keeping It Real]

Unless you are completely broke and can't afford anything else, why on earth would you want to live in someones basement with your husband? Wouldn't you be embarassed? I sure would. I

Is it really that hard to find a decent one bedroom apartment? My wife and I bought a house within a year of getting marrried and damn sure never lived in somebodies basement!

[mr conservative]

Newlyweds need to be alone. Having to share things causes problems you do not need. It is especially dangerous sharing a kitchen and food. It soon becomes a point of disagreement and who bought what is not what you need. Spend the little extra and get an efficiency apartment so there is not unnecessary friction.

[orangina]

living with anyone regardless of how much you see them is hard!! I am not married yet, but we have done a similar thing and YIKES. no privacy.. be careful! I would say more debt better quality of life!