Would you consider divorce if your spouse changed his/her mind about having children?

[aztrain23]

Suppose the topic HAD come up before the wedding, and you HAD agreed on future goals as pertaining to children, and this news occurred after the wedding but before any conception.

Please indicate whether you are a man or a woman and whether you want (or have) kids or don't.
I didn't mean so much that your spouse lied to you and intentionally deceived you.

I mean something happened, thought he/she was sure about it, turned out he/she wasn't quite as sure, and just changed his/her mind about the decision.

[ndnqt1966]

I am married for the second time...and I discussed with my first husband about having children before we were married...and we have 3 wonderful children together...I also talked with my current husband about children before we got married....and we now have a baby daughter....I honestly don't know what I would do if my spouse totally changed their mind about something we agreed upon before getting married...Seems rather unfair to me....

And it goes without saying...that I am a female....

[emnari]

I'm a woman .. and yes this very topic came up before we were married .. he stated he didn't want kids ... then changed his mind, but as it turns out I can't have them so we've decided to adopt ... we have 2 girls' now it seems to be quite a struggle for him .. it seems he's not ready to have them in his life and make the changes that are necessary .. but we're working on it.

Yes I have considered divorce, even though I don't want to, I need to have my dreams in life met as well.

It just depends on how much your willing to give up (compromise) in a relationship and if you can live with your decisions later.

[ceegt]

I am a woman and I have 5 grown kids (youngest 19 in July) and I think that the topic of wanting or not wanting kids is HUGE. Any man that would be deceptive on this is really wrong and just so....I don't know, I can't even think of what to say here. Having kids, or not having kids is a huge decision and always should be talked about before hand. If your husband lead you to believe he wanted kids and now doesn't, it makes me wonder if he just SAID he did to trap you into marriage. It would depend on how much I loved him, but I find this incredibly deceptive and any man that could be so deceptive in such a huge area would have me wondering what other areas he is being deceptive. I don't believe he just "changed his mind". Man, that just stinks!

[cyclist2300]

If a person excludes children or the possiblity of having children in a marriage......in the eyes of the Catholic Church...... that is grounds for an annullment.

[Rita]

No I would never consider Divorse .

[Pipe L]

you can still have kids, just ask if he wants to be the one to impregnate you or not!!!!

[carol h]

I would never consider divorce because kids or no kids,you still love each other,Right?

[Just Me]

I am a man who wants kids and if my wife led me on about she wants kids,we get married and she says she doesnt want kids.I would get a divorce unless she changed her mind,if not then I would,Kids are very important to me.I am not married yet though

[karin]

Before divorce, I would try to discuss and compromise.