someone please help me with this divorce!!?

[teesa]

okay so my dad and my stepmoim are getting divorced. im pretty pissed about this whole situation bc she has been my second mother my whole life. now she told my dad:i love you but im not in love with you" some stupid shiyt outof a movie. and she already has a new boyfirend or w.e...my dad and her have a kid together he's 8 and she has 3 kids one of them is 18 the other lives with his father and the other one is 17 she (17) is staying with my dad.. my step mom wants nothing to do with her kids, how selfish of her. she totally droped me from her life, deleted me off her myspace everything.as if i never exsited so i want to send her an email stating how i feel but i want to make it sound intellegant and hurtful towards her not in a mean way but uin a way to where she has to think aboiut tghe past amd realize what she is doing is hurting everyone around her. i mean when your own daughter would rather live with her step father than her own birthmother then you know theres a problem.
soim asking for someone to please help me. im not sure if what im asking makes sense im still in shock about this whole thing, so please can someone help me????
i am being strong for my dad, but its hard considering i live in like 6 states away. he has bad heart problems and this isnt good for his healt. and that blitch is pissing me off. i know u guys are saying not to let it bother me but u have to understand that she was a mother figure in my life, i am a strong person buyt i dont take tis shit too well.

[Shannon&Paul]

If I were you I would want to be with my dad during this rough time for him. Try not to show any anger in front of her daughter. Let her daughter be able to speak openly with you about her mom. You have every right to write your ex-step mother a letter telling her how you feel in your own words. Is this totally out of the norm for her? This is an affair with kids and a sick husband involved. So sad. She will deal with the guilt later on, all cheaters do. Right now she is blocking out her past and having fun. Pretty soon all of the fun will be over for her and all of her past unresolved issues will come tumbling down on her.

[Emanon]

Wow! I feel so bad for you! One more reason not to "blend" families with minor children. I hope things work out for you!

[John K]

It is not your divorce. Do not take your stepmom's actions personally. She is striking out against your Dad and not you. Be supportive of your dad and do not worry about what your stepmom does.

[Oceanside]

Just do yourself a favor and learn from people like this and don't be like them.

[sammy3256]

Give yourself permission to be mad and be able to say whatever it is that you need to say.. How about something like this.....

After all these years of being in our lives and being a parent figure - no matter what the genetic parentage is, I can't believe that it is so easy for you to erase children from your life. You need to understand this puts you on a very different path and would shut the door to communication with us. But understand that later on down the road we, the children you erase are not going to be concerned with any guilt feelings you may someday have. Those will be yours to bear on your own...

[pictureshygirl]

Of course this is hurtful to you and I can imagine how disruptive your home life feels like. Too many adults now a days get divorced and then get into a new relationship and they drag their children into this, it is just awful. My heart goes out to you. As much as it hurts you, your job as your fathers daoughter is to keep yourself as emotionally healthy as you can. You give your best to your studies, obey and respect household rules and try and leave the adult problems to them. I know this is easier said than done. But if you continue to feel responsible to the extent you want to give your step mom a letter to explain how hurt you are indicates all you need is someone to understand and to listen to you. I am afraid this someone will not be her and you will only be setting yourself up for more rejection from her. Go to your church, extending family, friends, teachers, or a support group for the love and understanding you so need. Wish I could be there for you. Take care and God Bless!

[Brown Water Drinker]

You could almost send her this quesiton. Tell it from the heart.