How to get the X the sign the divorce papers easily and cheaply and the way we...

[Vanessa]

...want it??Not possible right.? My bf has 2 children from his 1st marriage. He and his x are legally seperated for 3 yrs and in the sep. agreement she signed it as shared custody with HIM having primary care and control. He would now like to make the divorce final under those same terms but she's bitter and wont sign unles it is exactly 50/50 with him not having any extra upper hand. He will never agree to that because she is VERY unstable and he needs to be able to have the autority to take away her rights to see them when she is behaving like an ass. Anyways he told her yest. he was going forward with it and it would be in everyones bestinterest if she signed. She said no. She recently got a DUI and had a bit of a situation with the kids while she was drunk. Should he now tell her if she wont sign it this way that he is going for full custody instead? Maybe it will scare her into signing it this way since she probably knows she will lose? It would be best if she would just sign so there is less wasted time in court
Hey Celtic -you sound bitter - why is it that people always say "leave it to the real parents"? I have been part of OUR family for almost 3 yrs. The kids love me and I love them. I am as much a part of their life as their "real" mom. Just cause I am a stepparent I am not a parent and I should have nothing to do with it?

[claudiacake]

Best for you two, maybe, but maybe not best for her. I think he can tell her anything he wants, and it is not going to make a bit of difference. She intends to go to court, so that is where you are headed. By the way, even being the custodial parent does NOT give him, ever, the authority to take away her rights to see them, whether he thinks she is acting like an ass or not. That authority belongs only to the court. Maybe it is the concern that he will be pulling this "you can't see them" crap that has prompted her to go to court.

[stellan74]

I would say that your bf is definitely in the good and if she won't sign, then take her to court for that, considering her dui while the kids were with her, the judge will more than likely be on your bf's side.

[mommy2b24]

I know you all want it done quickly and easily, but instead, do it right. If she isn't fit, get full custody.

[celticbuddha]

first of all, unless he can prove all of that beyond a shadow of a doubt, no court/judge is going to give anything more or less then 50/50 custody. since that is what society views as the best interest for the children. regardless of what anyone thinks of her, she has just as much legal and custodial rights towards the kids as the father does. he ought to learn to respect that. trying to push the envelope is just going to be a timely and costly mess that'll make matters worse for everyone. other thing, i'd suggest that you keep it between the parents ONLY!

[cute_cuddly_tyger]

I think he should go ahead and fight for full custody. she sounds like someone i wouldn't even want my kids with. take the extra time and effort.....