I've been divorced for almost 5 years?

[meggerpepper]

I'm 29 and I have not had a successful relationship since my divorce. My life has changed a lot in other ways-job, went back to get my masters, I think much differently than I used to. All my friends are getting married and having babies. I cant even find a guy i want a second date with. I think i'm depressed. I see a therapist. I'm so worried about being alone forever. Anyone else feel like this?

[livingthe30s]

I think life is far away from perfect or from the ideal type as people describe it, like find a partner and have a nice family. Things doesn't work that way.

Me in your case, I would prefer to be alone forever than settle for less and know you are making a mistake and end up again where you ended, in a divorce that I'm pretty sure wasn't funny.

You got married way too young, before you even had an idea of how things were.

I'm not many years older than you, and I have asked the exact same question, and my decision is, I think it's a thousand times better to be alone, than choose the wrong partner. Because people are afraid of being alone, in many cases, they settle for someone who is not the right person, and that's a mistake they make, same as you made it when you got married the first time.

The fact of you going for your master, wont make things easier by the way, you will be narrowing the kind of guys you will be dating dramatically by the way, because you are eliminating the ones who doesn't have a degree.

I wouldn't suggest to get involved with anyone with less than a master degree by the way, not many have them. I would suggest to learn to be single which it seems you already know, otherwise you would have dated those guys more than once, but try to start accepting and accept the idea that life is great as single, just in case you don't meet anyone. Try to make friends, develop your social network, share your hobbies, your knowlege, your experience with others, life can be great. Probably you aren't meant to have a family, don't miss enjoying your life by forcing what you aren't meant to be.

If later down the road happens, it happens and it will be a good thing, but don't go out with a guy you don't like or you know you are making a mistake, because that's definitely and completely pointless.

Just know, happines is inside of you, nobody out there can make you happy if you don't want to be happy.

[punxsutawney phil]

It's not a race. Being desperate will only lead you to desperate decisions. There is nothing wrong with being on your own.

[Jenny]

Stop worrying about what other people are doing. Get out there and just start having a good time and enjoy your life. Join some clubs, start dancing lessons, do a short course that would help you meet a variety of people, both male and female.
When you stop worry and when you least expect it, something wonderful always comes along.

[Leafdapple]

Hi. Listen, you're 29! 29! youll find someone out there! youll find ssomeone out there thats just right for you! you're gonna find someoen who loves you for you. have you tried yahoo personals? Rome wasnt built in a day, you know....*smiles and eats pie* in the mean time, go bake sumthin yummy!!

[short shrimp]

29 is still young. I didn't meet my husband until I was 35. Sometimes you find what you are looking for when you stop looking so hard. Take care of your inner and outer self and the rest will take care of itself. You will meet someone to grow old with... and if for some reason you don't, you can still fill your life with family, friends, happiness, and accomplishments.