Please Please read this question about my marriage.. I need advise!?

[April]

Okay, my husband does not want to help out with anything around the house and expects me to work full time and cook, clean, do laundry.. all that fun stuff and I can't handle it. He isn't mean to me at all he just won't help. I ask him to and he says I don't want to. And to top it off we never even have sex.. he acts like it's a chore and tells me no all the time. I can't handle it anymore... am I being picky or is something wrong with this picture?

And yes I know just talk to him and he will understand.. I have tried a million times and it doesn't work.
Harry W. Taco... I don't need a date..

[jeffroinkc]

He needs to wake up from the dream and help. And I have no earthly idea why he wouldn't want sex ALL the time.

[trueeee]

Well for starters, are you a SAHM?

If so, then his thinking is probably that you are the one that is “supposed” to do everything. He needs a reality check.

Either way, it should be 50/50. If being direct and assertive didn’t work then be passive aggressive. Don’t do his laundry. Cook enough for yourself. Completely cut him off until he appreciates how much work you do for the home.

[nobody_000]

just stop it. stop doing the things for him. and go out with ur friends at afternoon and evening. i mean when ever hes around just be bussy with ur self or go somewhere or leave the house to catch up with friends or evn talk on phone with ur friends or even listen to ipod(with earplug) if he ask u whats wrong tell him ur feeling sick. then he'll understand what u are to the house and to him. im sure it will work for u.

[S&NFervor4Ever]

yeah, just dont do it. Do YOUR laundry. clean YOUR dishes.
AND DONT GIVE IN. If you give in, just like a child, he'll know he can get away with it.
As for the sex- tell him to go to the doctor he might have low testosterone, or maybe hes watching porn or cheating..(Not nessesarily, though)
One thing for sure, though, you're not
alone. When me and my hubby used to both work (before baby)
I would just not do his laundry or pick up his stuff.. He was so mindless.. but then if I asked him, he would gladly oblige. THATS the difference, mine knew he SHOULD help. your guy doesnt seem to get that.

[tina]

You need to leave him. He is only using you. Stop the cooking, cleaning and stop doing HIS laundry. Pack your bags...or his and lose this lazy bum. He does not love you or respect you if he is treating you like that.

[Cameo]

No child likes to do housework, and that's how he's behaving. If he refuses to pitch in and help, tell him you have no choice but to pay someone to do what he refuses to do. Don't continue to do it all and run yourself ragged. If he sees that all the work gets done whether or not he helps, then (in his mind) why should he do any of it?

Regarding the intimacy, you need to find out why he says no. Is there some reason that he's not attracted to you in that way? Is he getting it somewhere else? Have you tried seducing or enticing him? Is he tired or stressed? Does he feel pressured to perform? If he won't help out in the bedroom, I'd be tempted to insist on hiring out help with that, too!!!

[Tropica]

You have a full time job? Stop doing his share. When you do laundry don't do his. As for meals just fix something simple for yourself. Once he starts to complain. Give him the same excuse he does you. I just don't feel like it.