Being a woman, what do you do if the passion/sex in your marriage of 9+ years has

[womenrbetterbarrelracers]

gone away? We have no children, we don't work crazy hours, and we are home on weekends, but he won't touch me at all and this all started about December of 2007. What should I do as a wife, and as a woman? How long should I accept excuses?

[mspollyanna888]

The only two reasons i can find is that; he either has another women, or he is Gay!

[QUEEN B*******]

tell that man he betta go to the doctor and ask to precribe some damn viagra, cuz either he cant get that up or he cheating on ya gurl u betta ask somebody

[Shawn C]

Maybe He is having "issues" talk to him. Find out what is wrong, you might find that you both need to start "Dating again" each other I mean.

Get back the passion and excitement. Don't wait for him, if you want it then plan it and encourage him to do the same. Tease him, play the game. marriage is a game of sorts.

[Just Me]

depending on his age....he may be suffering from ED and is too embarrassed to admit it or be found out. maybe he needs to get his testosterone level checked with his physician. when was the last time he did any lab work? I guarantee that men in their late 40's and beyond start to experience some form of ED due to health issues.
otherwise, does he show any signs of infidelity? that would be another thing to consider, but it didn't sound like that was an issue.

[search4t]

Let me know when you find out.

[Linda]

Walk in the room naked. Leave a trail of rose pedals to the bedroom from the door that he walks in from. Have candle all over the room a bottle of wine chilling and you in a sexy nightie. Leave little sexy post it notes in his lunch or in his brief case.

[chadp10]

jump his bones.

[ladylady4470]

excuses? Hmmmm there should be none if you are trying and he is not. What is he hiding? Married 12 years and my hubby just asked me out on a date I'm excited!! Why do people quit working on their marriages after the first year or two?

[Kristy T]

well, my current mate is all over me constantly, but he tells tales of dating a woman for eight years and for the past six or so years of the relationship, they had sex maybe once a year.

he says this was so because they had both let themselves go and it frustrated him. he never once told her that her putting on like 60 lbs. bugged him, but he couldn't bring himself to be intimate with her either. he also admits that he hated his body too.

now, it could be either or in this situation, but that is the only time (outside of when a man cheats) when the sex truly dies out in a relationship.

i'm hoping that you figure out what the deal is. i suggest talking to him about it and encouraging him to be completely honest about it, even if it something that may hurt your feelings.

p.s. has he changed at all physically in since around then? have you?