when do you know that your marriage is over?

[miss jean]

i have been married 5 years. we married young, and we have a 5 year old. we have had alot of problems since the begining, i have left him twice, but came back. the last time i came back was 1 year ago. i thought that we were ready to make the marriage work, but as the year went past, things just went back to the way they were. i'm sick off it, i'm so tired of all the drama, and fights! i worry about the impact of all this on my son. but whats worse for him, staying together or separating?

[Anonymous03]

Leave him now while you have one child. So many people stay married for the children they would rather you divorce than seeing the unhappiness.

[stumped]

Ok this is not easy. First you have not said what all the fights are about. Money is usually the primary reason for break ups. Infidelity comes in second. Third is at times spousal neglect. Fourth is abuse. I would think of why the fights start and see if they are my fault, and be honest, or not. Then here is the problem: People never admit when they are wrong. I would highly recommend a marriage counselor.

[goobs25]

I would ask him ,to go to council ling with you, and see if you can talk to someone that doesn't know you both.If he doesn't want to go, and says there is no problem, then I would seriously try and end it.I believe you don't stay in a bad marriage, even for the kids sake.I ended my marriage 5 years now, because what is happening to you, happened to me.I took my daughter with me, and moved out, because she had already witnessed so much. it was affecting her, big time, she was 5 at the time.i say do it for your child, as well as yourself, while you still have some sanity.I wish you luck.

[Thirst Quencher]

Judging by your comment the fat lady is singing and singing loud. Understandably you are afraid of what your life will be without him but you have to leave while you are still young.

[Giselina]

You don't stay together for the sake of your child if the relationship is over. This will only show your son that the way both of you treat each other is the way life is. You want your son to be better than that by showing him a loving home and a happy one at that. If it's not in the one your in, then it's time for you to leave. But be prepared to leave....that's the key.

[HugeheadChavez W]

You both need to have Jesus Rodriguez in your lives, That is the problem and that is why your lawn is not maintained

[CindyLu]

Take it from the child of unhappy parents that stayed together for the sake of the kids. We were miserable the whole time too and in the end it did a lot more harm then good. Don't do it. The child will be a lot better off with one happy healty parent than two miserable wretches stuck together in hell.

[peeweeswoman07]

It is harder on the kids trying to stay together for their sake. You know the marriage is over when you have the first problems and you have to walk out on him. If something told you to leave him then, then it is usually over and not able to be worked out because no one can admit that there is a problem to start with and it can't be worked out.

[Monsieur Rcik]

To answer only your question~~when nothing is working to fill the emptiness in your heart...that is when you marriage is over.