2yrs of Marriage and husband wants NO sex???

[koko]

Ok, first thing you people are going to say is that he's cheating. I know he's not physically. Now I have caught him registering on a few singles' websites and I was livid. No I have not gained any weight and we have no kids. I can actually verify every minute of the hour he has once he is off work. He is always home right after, and if he leaves...9 times out 10 we are together. He has a few buddies that come by and visit, but he never goes to hang out with them. We are home every evening and all days on weekends together. He doesn't even spend his check. He leaves all that up to me and just asks me to give him a few bucks here and there for some trinkets (aka...toys) that he likes. There is a 6 yr age difference whereas I am his senior. Before marriage, there was a point where we went 45 days strait with 2-3 times a day events. He kept this up for the 1st year we dated. So halfway thru the second year, I set a date and we were married.
Once we got married, the sex dropped immediately to 1-2 week, to 1-2 a month, to now 1 about every 6 months. He is not impotent. I see him every morning when he awakes with a hardie. But trying sexual play stuff, setting moods, even demanding some quality time, has yet to happen. I am damn near to the point of wanting another man to fullfill what he's not giving, but my love for him is deep. I have even threatened him of another man, and he get's angry, but no real angry like when you touch his musical stuff of video games. so now I am at my wits end. He is a good man, but somewhere after he signed on the dotted line, he feels like we should only be intimate maybe 2wice a year. And we are just now in our 2nd yr of marriage. What is a girl to do????
No I don't want to cheat, but I am thinking about it heavily now because I can't get him to communicate with me on why he is withdrawn like this. But we can talk about everything else and he shows great intense listening. I feel unwanted, neglected and most certainly not cherished. My sex drive is very intense. Like I said, 45 days strait and no break...I want that man back. I have completely given up on trying. Most times now, I just go to one of the bedrooms and watch tv or talk on phone to a sibling. As long as I don't bother him about sex, we are at peace. You would not believe how tranquil our home is. Everyone who visits thinks of it as a resort. But when we are alone, I want animal passion to take over him. All I am getting is a dead horse. Did I mention he goes to church EVERY sunday. He knows what God requires of him to keep his wife satisfied, but he is not doing that.And no counseling...been there done that. He hated it!
Perhaps one of you is right. Maybe he is not interested in sex because it is no good. I guess I should have known before marriage that he didn't want me to do a BJ on him, but he was damn good doing me. Maybe he is getting down at work. I don't force him to stay home, he just loves it because of the peace. Heck, I am the same way. Ppl think I am reclusive, but it's just that I love my home and i love being with him. Or should I say in his space. I tried the scare tactic of another man in hopes that would make him rethink. He just brushed if off and said yeah right. My sis says its because he trusts me and knows how I am and have become a security blanket for him. Basically he is taking me for granted because I do moree things a mother would do(washing clothes, ironing, paying bills, etc.) and I never go anywhere So he is secure in his life cause I give him no cause to worry. So therefore he controls when and where of the sex, and I have no choice in it.