My boyfriend is married but separated, is it wrong to ask him to get divorced?

[jeff b]

You certainly have the right to ask him to get divorced if he wants the relationship to go to another level. You run the risk of him leaving you though if you tell him this. I think you deserve more.

[jeff b]

You certainly have the right to ask him to get divorced if he wants the relationship to go to another level. You run the risk of him leaving you though if you tell him this. I think you deserve more.

[James Bond]

Sounds like you hooked yourself a gem. If he truly was finished with his marriage, he would close the deal. I understand there is a promise in there, but he's messing up lives here. For one he's dragging her along on a string and she probably feels there could still be a chance to get back together. And then there's you who likes the guy, but your relationship with him can't advance until the divorce is final. Tell him your feelings and tell him what you want out of your relationship. He needs to go one way or the other at some point. In my opinion I would find someone else all together if I were you.

[Tonya Kelly]

tell him how you feel. Your cheating yourself by being with a guy that you can't ever marry. If he loves you and wants to be with you he should be willing to divorce her. He can still look aftere her while not being married to her. Its called being friends!

[are ya fer real]

it is my feeling that it was just plain wrong to start dating him until the divorce was finalized . Dating married people only lead to two things 1. it destroys a family that is already established. 2. you are the rebound lover which goes nowhere.
I think it would be wrong to ask/demand/coheres him into something he hasn't already done. i also think it would be well advised of you to break of this relationship and look for a more positive and healthy relationship to pursue.
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[Who Knew?]

You should be very uncomfortable about the situation...he can still take care of her so to speak and not be married to her

so no, it's not wrong to ask him to get a divorce..by not doing it he's basically keeping his life on hold and essentially asking you to do the same