My boyfriend is married but separated, is it wrong to ask him to get divorced?

[Lucy L]

We've been together for a year and I have known from the beginning but never thought it was an issue as I never thought we'd be together this long. He married a thai woman a few years ago who he doesn't want to divorce because he says promised her family that he would look after her. They separated becasue she wanted children and he did not. I really like him but feel uncomfortable with the situation.

[Jethrok]

Lucy. my advise is to move on. He is a married men. Suppose you did get married one day. How would you feel if he told his new girlfriend that he promised your parents to look after you.

No matter how he tries to justify it the situation is wrong.

Best of luck to you.

[Tiare]

My opinion is that yes, he should file for divorce especially since there are no children involved. You two have been together for quite some time now and if you two are serious and in love I see no reason why you should have a boyfriend who is still married. That is very disrespectful to you and your relationship. I could understand if there was money or children involved, but that is not the case. maybe he's afraid you are going to push to get married

[icewitch54]

Well, you could ask him but it seems that you already know what his answer would be. The thing is..........are you prepared to stay with him if he abides by what I suppose he sees as his 'principles'.

[Queen of Beer]

Why would you want to be with someone who won't divorce his wife? This is easy...get the heck out! Not to mention, sounds like he married a mail-order bride. Ewww!

[lisalisa]

why would you want to be in a rebound relationship?

this will never work

[Marleen]

Sweetie IDK but I think you are in all rights to tell him you'll really like for him to get divorced. I feel that he just giving an excuse to not divorce her. Once a person no longer wants to be with someone then why be married to them, don't you agree? Also he doesn't want children is that ever or just for now b/c that can also be an issues down the road with you if you want children?? I would also be uncomfortable with the situation... Best of luck

[ladyren]

As well you should.... you are being played the chump, sweetie... bail.

Either the guy cares, or he doesn't..... he doesn't. Find a real man, hon. This is about the lamest excuse I've heard on here yet.

[suehellen]

jajjaja, what is wrong is you having a married boyfriend!!!OMG!! grow up!!

[AinePriestess]

Whore..get your own man.