preganant, pretty much divorced, drama drama drama and longing to know

[Princess C]

how to move on and be happy? I have made some bad decisions.... got married to a guy, had a baby who is 1yrs old ..... 9months pregnant now... went on vacation with him at 6months... we got into a physical altercation.. i left him and that country came back to u.s.. staying with mom started working.. have the possibility of getting a really good job but i am due to have baby next month... I feel real bad about not staying home with newborn, but i have to work ..... i have no help from anyone... so uncomfortable staying with my mom... she is not supportive and there really is no space for me here. the only othe guy who i have ever loved and who has been very supportive tells me yesterday he proposed to his girlfriend.. We haven't dated in over 5yrs and have really been like best friends . always agreeing that we were the best thing that happened to each other.. sometimes maing references to getting back together,, i thought we were both very honest with each other... but he never even told me he was dating someone
both children are by my husband

[iyamacog]

It appears you are not finished making lousy decisions. PLEASE put some stock into yourself! How on earth do you plan to move on and be happy, when you do NOT learn from your mistakes. PLEASE PAY ATTN to your life. Start looking out for YOU! It's more than obvious, that NO ONE else is looking out for you! Take control!

[o'juiccy1]

Get that really good job and after u push that crumb snatcher out go back to work after your 6week checkup. Two babies are depending on YOU and only YOU! Stop looking down and look UP. Your mom is there for you ...she took u in...when she didn't have too. Help eachother out and work with what you have. Start with some small goals and build. Before you know it that newborn will be 1years old and you'll have some seniority. Get some child support! Get some assistance for a while til you can get on solid ground! GOOD LUCK and take care of those ANGELS including your MOM.

[Gabby]

Your relationship with your ex is over...he proposed to his girlfriend so don't make another bad decision and try to pursue something that isn't in your best interests. Now baby on the way or not, you have a great new job possibility so go for it. I know it will be extremely difficult to leave your newborn in care while you work but you have to do what you have to do to provide for your family. Your mother is probably overwhelmed with things so it would probably be for the best in getting your own place when you are able. Keep your immediate focus on getting your private and professional lives in order and your love life will fall into place in due course. Best of luck.

[cgro]

sorry- Its seems as if this friend must just be a best friend... Most of the time a person can realize that they made the wrong mistake breaking up with the one person that actually meant something. But if he does not feel the same no need to push cause it may push him away to not even being a friend anymore. "My best friends Wedding" Be supportive no matter the cost. You all can still be there for each other.

[butterfly]

I dont understand here..so you basically have 2 children with 2 different men? you are married to the father of the 1 yr old? and you are pregnant again with another man´s baby??-how old are you?..as u know by now that u got yourself in the situation you are i right now..next time think it over before having sex..

[Eulalia]

First thing first: if you can secure that good job you were talking about, that would be a good success in your life and it would give you the means to support your children. With that in the background could you ask your mother if she would be willing to help with the children while you work--offer her to pay her something for that. Then go look for an apartment or house which you can afford and which you feel is a decent home for you and your children and set everything up so that you can move there as quickly as possible. If you can accomplish those things, you will already feel better about yourself.
What I learned in my life is, that happiness is not something I find in oters--I find it in myself. I know who I am, what my limitations are, and the things that made me unhappy about myself--I worked on it. I used to be a hothead and it took a long time of conscious efforts to be calmer, but the effort did pay off. I also used to be fat--and I learned from that how strong I really am, because I took 100 lbs off my body and with that did I feel a LOT better too. I also looked at things I do occasianally and how I felt afterwards--such as drinking wine and beer on occasions---I acted differently, I didn't like who I was, and so I quit doing that. So there are things you can do to make yourself feel a lot better about yourself. If you feel better about yourself then you are happy with yourself--and if you are happy with who you are--guess what? You won't need a man to make you happy, but the guys will line up for you because they can see that happiness in you.....good luck

[Bob O]

you have a lot of baggage

i'd pass regardless how friendly we were

i'm not raising anyone elses kids

but this is my opinion

[Sue B]

You shouldn't have it in your mind, that depending on a man will do you any good. As you can see, the hard way, not one of these men is there for you when you really needed them!

Alot of us have to work hard and miss many days with our babies. We have to to survive. Why not for like 6 months, get applied with low income houseing, ( get your own place) get state aid and food stamps. This way, you can have the time to give birth and bond in some ways with baby. If you have to, get only a part time job to start with, so your baby does have more time with you.

I really suggest, you get on birth control!!