| I'm unhappy with the way my huband's attorney drafted up final divorce... ...decree.Can my lawyer draft one up now? This is the final divorce decree, not just a pre trial settlement offer. I object to some of the wording in it and the settlement is grossly one sided, all slanted in my husband's favor. My husband already signed it, though he said he hesitated over it. I have seen it but have not signed and have not reviewed it with my attorney yet. I knew when his lawyer said he'd draft up the final decree, that I would be in trouble. I should have insisted that my attorney be the one to do that in the first place. Although I know it's normal to dislike your husband's attorney, mine is by far more fair. His has tried to cover up things and I have proof.
Also, I am the one who filed. My husband had a history of being emotionally abusive to me and I really felt he didn't love me and that I was a bother to him. I thought he wanted the divorce, too. He never tried to tell me otherwise and seemed to go along with it. I started feeling like there was finally some hope for us after I filed.
I know, too late, and I can't tell you how much I have beat myself up over that, so please be kind to me. I am very fragile right now. I just wanted to know if I can be forced to sign where it says the legitimate objects of matrimony have been destroyed and there is no hope for preserving the marriage, etc. I don't agree and if I sign, I would be lying.
Please, help!
I have an appointment to talk to my attorney in 2 days, but am so upset and worried over this, it's hard to think about anything else. My husband, I can tell, is having ambivalent feelings about the divorce, too. If I have to go through with it, I need to look out for my future, in case my husband is not in it. He wants to stay together after the divorce, but says he can't guarantee the future. As I said, the decree, as it is written now, it is almost an understatement to say it is to my disadvantage. |