My friend and her marriage?

[Just Some Girl]

Could go either way. Either she really is fine because she realized that her husband has to mean everything to her because she married him, or she's doing like you suspect and seeing her ex on the side.

I think the relationship with her husband can work if she's willing to work at it. But it might mean having to get rid of the ex altogether, which I don't think will happen. Sometimes we like a little drama in our lives, and oftentimes we even encourage it! It might be that she married on the rebound, but maybe she wanted to make a statement to her ex...and now she'll pay for it dearly.

[mcknight2311]

LADIES: What do you think?

What do you think of this situation: Lets say for the first 8 months of one of your girlfriends marriage, you found out she was still occasionally calling her ex-boyfriend telling him she was confused and missed him. (she married on the rebound) Then she even told you many times that she was confused and had too many regrets about marrying her husband and not her ex.

Now it is has been one year, and she tells you that she is "ok," she looks fine in her public, but she has always been one to hide her true emotions. Would you think this friend wil eventually be able to get over her ex, her regrets of marrying her husband and fall in love with him? The first 8 months the answer is no. Now your friend said she is fine. What do you think?? HONESTY!!!

[Tamiri]

It sounds as if you're concerned about your friend's happiness. That's wonderful. But, honestly there's nothing you can do for her except let her know that you're there if she needs someone to talk to.
If she's not over her ex 8 months into her marraige, then it's doubtful that she's over him now. However, she may be trying to make the best of her situation and give her husband her full attention, as he deserves.

I wish your friend luck. Just be there for her when she needs to talk.

[Alyssa M]

i think i would need to mind my own business and handle my own relationships--she is a grown woman for goodness sake

[Cate]

HONESTLY...I think it is none of your business.

I am not trying to be rude. I'm sure that you care deeply for your friend and want to help her as much as you can. You have even gone to the trouble of posting a question to try to get the best advice for your friend so it looks like you don't realize that you might be doing more harm than good. She didn't ask you to do any of these things - she told you she is fine!

Your friend is telling you what she wants you to know. It may be the truth or it might not be, but what she is telling you is what she wants you to know and you need to respect that instead of being suspicious and trying to fix a problem that may not even exist.

100 people on Yahoo could tell you they think your friend is NOT fine and she could STILL be perfectly fine, see?