My husband is disregarding my feelings and instead of talking with me he

[missnasa2001]

I think your husband wants the divorce and is using you for a way out instead of being man enough to say, "I'm a cheating asshole I want out of this." Instead this thing goes on and on for probably years and he manipulates you and now you feel you're the cause to his problem. He's cheated on you and I don't think that's a good reason to try to work the marriage out. You filed for divorce which is a very hard step, now you need to try to separate yourself from this. Let the kids talk to him and spend some time ignoring his ass and work on yourself. The less you talk to him the better off you'll be. Try to do some things for you and get on with yourself and make yourself happy.

[Momof3]

ask for a divorce? One year ago I filed for divorce, this took a lot for me to do because I have three children and always wanted a good family life for them. Over 13 years I have put up with his addictive behaviors; he has never been the kind of husband he claims he is all of time. He always finds ways to make me feel bad. I love him always did, but never felt appreciated. Things got worst last year, two years prior to the filing he cheated on me once for sure, twice possibly as far as I know..The year after is when I really lost it, obsessed on his calls, where abouts..it got bad, than he started accusing me of all the things he had actually done in our relationship! Any way, throughout the separation we still spoke,although, at times he was psychotic, crazy and scary, I know it was a big mistake but we tried to work it out for the past 6 mths. He actually just got a job 3 weeks ago! (out of state again) which is when I found the dating site, now he wants a divorce.All I ever do is say "what did I do"

[zeppelindude]

It's clearly not meant to be. If you guys have had that many problems and you even filed for divorce yourself, it's probably the best for you. Think about it this way... a year from now, which would you regret more? Staying married and dealing with the same stuff or getting the divorce and moving on?

[jim b]

This is what happens when 2 people with no self-esteem get married.

[Bernadine]

I am sorry But a cheating husband need to be shown the door.

Your going to be better off in the long run. You may even get that happy feeling back.

good luck

[luv41anatha]

just let him go at least you know u tried. better now than later when he brings home some fleas and we know how hard they are to get rid of. good luck...

[dragonfire]

and what feelings are those?

feelings are worthless as they are usually serve onto the female and that means you are selfish and self serving

what did you exactly do for him?

do you know why he cheated?

he cheated because he found someone who had no feeling but paid him attention and made him feel like a man ,and not some dogged guy who knew he married the wrong person

[FlaChic]

God.....another woman playing the Victim role!!! You sure have a funny definition of what Love is!!! Stop your whining and do something about your miserable life, honey! This man is a LOOSER!! Can you spell L-O-O-S-E-R????? He has an addictive personality and he will not change. What you are going through is as good as it will get. Get to the lawyer's office, file for divorce and then head to a counselor. Stop worrying about him and what is is doing.......your problems are far more serious!

[Julia]

Sweetie you did not do anything. Your husband has some severe mental and emotional problems that only he can get help for if he wants to. You cannot go on living this way allowing him to abuse your self esteem and treat you with no respect. You have to find the strength to move on in your life so that someday you can find a man that will appreciate you. Remember that another mans junk is another mans treasure.

[favorites831]

get rid of him once and for all because he is a leach and once a cheater always a cheater and if he is accusing you of cheating that means he is definetly cheating again