Christians - Is it worth going insane in order to save your marriage?

[guy]

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A lot of people have said that in order to save my marriage, just pray. Pray Pray. Seek Pastor counsling. I have seeked therapists before and even they threw the towel in. We are so different now, but were so the same when we said I do. So my question is if I let this marriage kill me, spiritually, mentally, and eventually physically is that acceptable because its till death do us part? Obviously theres no easy solutions but isnt there suppose to be a silver lining? Some place for hope, or joy, or a slight bit of happiness?

[Linda K]

There's got to be a point in time when you've DONE everything and nothing can be fixed and you do deserve some happiness and it could be time to call it quits. BUT that's a huge decision and life won't be necessarily greener on the other side of the proverbial relationship hill you do know that, right? Look at the pros & cons, what have you invested, what will you reap, who else is involved<children>, what would the consequences be for everyone involved if you left <home, finances, jobs, insurance, etc> lots to consider. Marriage is HARD I know - try to keep a perspective of the BIG PICTURE some times helps me, as I'm also a christian currently going through some marital woes... I know it's tough. Weigh both sides of the coin and then bring it to the Lord for answers & peace. He doesn't expect you to live your life in unhappiness either.

[mawbaker98]

This is a difficult road ahead for you and I have no answers, but I can understand.
My mother stayed with my father for a very long time. She endured abuse(as did us kids) and stayed with him because she made a commitment to God. She called her church and cathlic family services only to be told to pray, listen to God and be quoted some passages from the Bible.
Now where did this get her, only to misery and we were left abused for 18 years - is that what God wanted for us? I don't think so...
I think the difference you must look at is what you think is right by God and what your "church" tell s you is right. I see a very big difference between the two and I would go by you and God before the church. My mom finally did and the church told her "well, then you can never marry again in our church" and my mom was like "is that all?" and basically it was! My mom is doing better than ever being on her own and is still devoted. I no longer decided to be roman catholic but remain a Christian. I, too, believe God wants me happy and living life in peace and harmony and not harming others (emotionally or physically) and most of all don't forget God is understanding. Do you think God wants you to be in misery?
Something to consider........good luck!