Can you force yourself to stop feeling pain and loneliness?

[Sana *]

A few days ago, I got into a really bad fight with my parents, so when I knew that I was going to burst into tears, I locked myself in the bathroom and cried. As much as I tried, I just couldn't stop sobbing and crying my heart out. Later, when I returned to my room I heard my parents talk about me in the other room. My mom kept defending me, but my father kept saying how I will never become 'someone', how I am mediocre, always getting bad marks at school and will never succeed in life.
I never cry in front of them, but can't he just see how much is he hurting me with his words? I am in the ninth grade, and in every year I have had the year's final mark always over 9 (on a scale from 1 to 10). I study hard only at the subjects that particularly interest me (History, English, Language, Informatics), but I rarely have marks lower than 8 at others. I know I'm not stupid. I play the piano, I like to write fiction, but I always feel alone and depressed. I want to make something of my life.

[amsam]

parents not only want what is best for their children but sometimes they want what is too late for themselves. explain to your dad that you are you and you are not him. you sound pretty smart to me and you care what they think because it bothered you so much. it's good to care what they think but remember it is your life and soon enough it will be your on your own and you don't want to be discouraged with yourself in life because you are trying to make your parents happy. (people do this all the time and end up forty years old before they realize they haven't truely been living their lives - they've been living a life their parents wanted for them).
anyway - talk to your parents, don't hide in the bathroom, don't be ashamed to show how you feel. it's honest. and more productive. good luck

[Jelly]

Oh..*hugs* Don't you worry, try to not let it affect you. You write fiction? That's wonderful; I do that too when I've not got writers block; you can lose yourself in that...
You sound intelligent to me, and you know you are; I'm sure you WILL make something of your life dear and don't you let ANYONE make you think otherwise. You know yourself better than anyone; you know you can do it.

[Gavin R]

Sana, anybody who can play piano and learn a foreign language at the same time is doing great. Your father could be jealous of the affection your mother shows to you, and he tries to undercut this by making you feel miserable (people play games like this all the time). Try to ignore your father and talk to your mother instead. Also, reach out to your friends. It's time to get out of the house and to put some actual physical distance between yourself and your father. If you have to, do your homework in the library where you can at least meet friends for free.

[4HIM]

Your fathers words are hurting you. You know that you are doing good and want him to recognize this.

Go to him immediately and tell him that you want to talk with him alone. Tell him what you have told us. Then listen to his reply. Learn to tell people you feelings. Unless you do, they do not understand.