How do you get over the pain of separation/divorce?

[tess]

Its not so much the fact that I would miss my husband...its the pain of my children having to be deprived of growing up with parents who love each other...I just love my boys so much I want the best for them....I know its probably the best decision to divorce or remain separated because we just could not get along no matter how much we tried and the fights we're just getting worse and worse and I don't want my sons growing up thinking that this is the way a relationship is supposed to be. My sons are 2 and 6. Right now my husband and I are just physically separated. My husband worked, but I supported the family so my husband just moved out, the decision was mutual.
Right now I my hurt is mostly for the children, will they be ok?
My husband and I explain to the 6 yr old everything that's going on and they stay with their dad when i work. Does the pain get easier with time?

[Carolyn]

I totally understand how you are feeling right now. I have been there. I had all the same emotions and fears. It's a normal reaction from a loving parent. We want the best for our kids and when our ideal of the best doesn't work out we hurt. One of the things that really made me see the situation for what it was is this...

A child would rather be FROM a broken home then to live in one.

It is so much better for your children not to be raised in a house with parents who fight all the time. You can both co-parent the children and love them just the same as when you were together. The failure of your marriage is not a measure of you or your husband's love for the kids. I wish you nothing but luck and please know it does get easier with time.

[Beautifulme]

I am not in this situation nor am I from a broken home. But when I saw your profile it was my heart to tell you to Pray. Find a bible based church attend and seek God. Lean not onto your own understanding. He will guide you Sista! He will. Know him intimately and he Will Carry you and your children thru this. God Bless you and good luck!

[Wade ?]

yes it should get better and the kids will be fine as long as y'all don't get nasty and drag them into your problems and keep letting them know that mom and dad both love them