Freedom and moral responsibility/obligations in philosophy? Help!?

[hermotsura]

I'm wondering if there's any philosopher who discusses the fact that no matter how much we would like to think that we are free, we are still restricted in our decisions by our relationships and responsibilities with the people around us. Like if you've seen the bucket list, it's hard to take some decisions because you have a family and you will hurt certain people. Same goes if two peope stay together just for the sake of the kid, when none of them loves the other any longer. Or think about the Bucket List - he hurt his family by doing what he wanted to do. So, I was wondering, I need it for an essay acutally, if there's any philosopher who talks about this... Society, relationships and distorted freedom.

[Gavin R]

Check out Rollo May's "Love and Will."

[Jim]

Deep well
Restrictions or responsibility
We have our own restrictions by what we see, hear, and are taught.
We act responsible to those around our life's.
With out these there would be a breakdown of accepted freedoms.

[Yaoi Shonen-ai]

If they are your chosen family, like a wife and kids, then you willingly chose to put a limit to your freedoms and you can not call that a "restriction" in the moral sense that you are not free. It is very moral to say, "You made your bed, now sleep in it." It would be immoral to say otherwise.

If the family is not chosen, such as parents or siblings, you are free to consider them in your decision, but to accept servitude to their existence and to your unchosen link to them is what Compte called altruism, which he described as "self-abnegation." Choose to act that way and guess what? You've made a choice.

Man is always free, every second of every day, but sometimes the choices he previously made limit him in a way he chose. To accept a limitiation put there by the inconvenience of what you did NOT choose is altruism, and as Ayn Rand said, anyone who choses altruism gets what they deserve.