Opinion about my wedding situation...?

[Angel T]

Ok, well in my wedding I'm having 2 flower girls so i decided to have 2 ring bearers... Well i have a few young cousins and one nephew... I'm not all that close to those cousins so i didn't really want to ask them unless I had to... And I want my nephew to be one the the bearers, but my brother's wife is his mother-my sister in law doesn't like one of my friends who i'm inviting to my wedding so they got all mad and said they wasn't coming to the wedding and all and if they aint there then they wouldn't let my nephew come either... So i took the liberty in finding another bearer so i asked my friend that i mentioned if i could use her little son for one of the bearers. Well i told my mom, thinkin she would be happy.. But she wasn't and she got in a big arguement and all saying i sould put family first and i said why should i, they dont put me first. And so she thinks i'm holding this against my nephew, which i'm totally not cause i still want him to be a part of it...
But my mom keeps saying how my brother and his wife won't let my nephew be a part of it if my friend's son is in it as well... And i keep saying oh well... Is that wrong of me... Because my mom's side of the family could seriously care less about me... But yet i should put them first when they don't do the same for me... It's not that i don't want my nephew in it, it's just that i don't feel like i should please my brothers wife by taking my friend's son out of it....
Thanks for ya'll understanding my side and being on my side... I just don't understand why everybody is against my decision... I mean it would mean the world to me if my nephew could do the honors of being my ring bearer, but i'm not going to take my friends son out of it just because of my no good sister in law who thinks everything has to be her way or no way... And my mom doesn't look at it my way... she thinks i don't want my nephew in it cause i'm letting my friends son be in it... Her excuse is that i never see that friend, (which is true being we work all the time, but we do talk several times a week), but my defense is that i dont see or talk to my sister in law unless she's at my parents house, and thats the only time she'll let me see my nephew as well... But, thanks again, i'm gonna try my hardest to stand my ground about my nephew but i definitly won't take my friends son out of the picture just for the sis-in-law...