Do I not care enough for my 2 year old?

[CEM]

With my first daughter, I used to cry over everything with her and still do - her first day of preschool or if she cried when I left her with a sitter, for example. She's 7 now and when I dropped her off at a bday party and she was nervous and cried, I almost cried too! I had tears. If she cries over something, I want to cry with her. With my second daughter who's 2, it's like I don't care - but I do. I know at this age 2 year olds cry about everything - but if she cries if I leave her with a sitter I don't care. She is alot different than my first (very dramatic and gets frustrated alot more, therefore cries more), so maybe I'm used to her crying? I feel that when she starts preschool and cries her eyes out, I'll be like OK see you later and not shed a tear. Is there anyone else out there who feels this way about their 2nd child?

[aPPiTaMYoFsExY]

WOW NO, REAL NICE LADY

[SherryFalconF0704]

The oldest is always the hardest. They clear the way for the others. I don't think you don't care. She's just #2 - leaving didn't kill the 1st, it won't the second.

[MegKenny]

I dont have a second child but maybe it is just you getting used to parenting. With your first child you are always concerned but maybe with your second your used to this and you know how they react to things. Also, you mentioning that she was dramatic shows that you are used tothis so you maynot feel that it is as serious as your first!

[AngelinaN]

After a few kids you get immune, doesn't mean you don't care, just means you've done it already.

[sammie_7x]

i havent had my first yet, but i have been told by lots of mums that they feel its more special with their first. but personally i would think its special with any child. did you have depression with your youngest? did you have any problems bonding? if so this could be the reason. if not then it could just be what you said that you are used to it so you can control your emotional side easier, where the first time was just all new to you. but as you mentioned she is different to your first it seems that you are basically comparing them, so you are expecting a bit much from your 2 year old as each child is different. i think you should talk to someone who can give you better advice as they will know you personally and your situation.

[Lucy9708]

In all honesty, it sounds like you 'resent' her for not being like her sister.. No two children are the same. It doesnt mean your a bad mum though, if you didnt care for your child you wouldnt have asked this :]

[HeatherR3174]

I think you are just more confident. You cried for your first daughter not only because her crying hurt you, but because you were also probably scared to leave her at the setters, or to leave her as school. You were just as scared that she would need you and you wouldn't be there.Now you are more comfortable being a mommy. You are more confident.Don't worry, you sound like a wonderful mommy.

[SandraS2228]

I think you're kind of over-doing it for both. Crying everytime you leave your 7-year-old? If I were her, I would have figured out that crying gets me what I want. As for your youngest child, you don't care? Seems like you should care, even if you don't cry. There's a balance to everything. If I were you, I'd be careful about giving so much more attention to your oldest, you don't want your younger daughter growing up resenting you or your other daughter.

[ladiitas]

Yes you do care is just that you cried with your first daughter because she was your first child.Now that you have been throught it your fineand you know what to expect.This doesnt mean that you don't care.This is like my mother I remember she use to cry with me now she had my brother and when he cries she doesn't anything so you shouldn't worry.