Need advice! my spouse and I were renting a house in a bad neighborhood and...

[lilrunt12001]

...needed to move we started? looking for a new house to rent when my mother said she needed help paying for her house because she had lost her job of 20 years. She has had the house for 18 years and does not want to lose it so offered us to move in with her and split costs. We took her up on the offer because we didn't want her to lose the house but now we are living in HELL. My spouse and I have 4 kids they get up fairly early for school and wake our 2 year old so she is up every morn around 6am. This is also the time my mother chooses to go to bed so we are having to be quiet til 2pm in the afternoon. She also complains on everything the children do wrong (not understanding they are only children) She gets highly angry if the kids accidently break a $3.00 terra cotta planter. Now we are ready to move out but unsure how to break it to my mother and also since she is my mother I hate to cause things where she loses her house. A list of bills are handed to me weeks late with her wanting instant payment. Help!!
My mother is not working or looking for a job, she is living off the money she saved over the last 20 years when she worked a great job. I would like to add that my family is not high dollar people when my mother on the other hand is. She has the mind set that we were the ones who needed help and thinks she is doing us a favor when really we were doing fine and we are the ones doing her a favor. I hate to wreak the relationship with her and I know she will never speak to us again if we move that is just how she is. But my relationship with my spouse is starting to really suffer( my mother hates him) for no reason at all other than I think she hates men in general because she has been divorced 5 times. I have been so sick to my stomach wondering what to do But its a daily conversation with spouse and he wants to move.