When you are lied to,does it really irritate you or do you think it's OK depending on the severity of the lie?

[AmosS]

I've been dating various women and when I catch one in a lie I ask why and usually forgo any further contact.Am I being oversensitive or should I accept lies as part of human nature?Me? I have no reason to lie so I don't.Posted this in M/D because respondants in singles/dating lack maturity.

[Dove4454]

No you are not being oversensitive. Anyone that lies has character defects. I do not like liers and will not tolerate it as well. Good for you.

[Jaysmomee]

There is no need to lie...not to your partner! I would get upset also...maybe not sever all contact (depending on the lie) but let the woman know you do not like liars...at all. Good Luck.

[MommyToType1Princess3105]

I think it depends on the severity of the lie, and also the amount of lies you have been told by the same person. It is normal to be really irritated, especially if you bring it to the person's attention that you prefer honesty, even if it hurts, and they still continue to do so. Little lies that become habit or part of a person's nature, make it difficult to believe what the truth may be and clouds your perception.Some people lie to protect others. Some to protect themselves. I guess it depends on what someone lies about.I don't think you are being oversensitive...I think you are sick of being lied to for no apparent reason. I am the same way! I am honest so I naturally would expect or hope for honesty in return. Many others don't have that ability. To each their own...we can choose to not put up with the lies, and it looks like you have chosen to do so. Don't beat yourself up. Do what you need to do to make yourself happy!Good luck & I hope this helps!

[bobohead]

well im not married, and i answer questions in here, because the questions in singles/dating are lacking maturity! Anyhow, a lie is a lie, whether it is big or small. I feel that if someone is dumb enough to lie about something small, then it will just be easier to lie about something BIG...I too have nothing to hide, and the only time i have lied to my bf is so that i could get extra time after work to go get his christmas presents, and i felt so guilty for the week that i had to wait till christmas, and when it was finally time to open presents i spilled the beans and told him that the day i said i had to work late, i really went to get his presents....

[AnJi4572]

Amos Well - liars can be habitual or it could be a one-time thing (if there is such a thing).I guess it depends on the person and - like you said -the severity of the lie(s).Either way - watch your back because it obviously an indication of something wrong.

[TM6461]

It depends on the severity of the lie. If the lie hurts the relationship,such as she's married, kids, I'll stop all contacts. If the lie just about small things, like weigh, height, friends, money, work...etc, it's no big deal.

[Serenity8601]

It really irritates me.I'm afraid I'm quite intolerant of lies, however big or small.Integrity is extremely important to me, and when I catch someone out in a lie, I tend to take it as an indication of a serious character flaw ... if they'll lie about small things, they'll lie about big ones too. They've demonstrated that it's in their nature. I hate anyone to lie to me. It erodes my trust in them.I don't have any reason to lie, and I don't think I'd make a good liar anyway! I'd much rather deal with the truth, even when it's a painful truth. And I seek out the company of others strong enough to do the same.I don't think you're being oversensitive at all. I think you're being very wise. Why drop your standards to accomodate someone else's shortcomings? Especially when it comes to romantic relationships ... there's just too much at stake. I wouldn't date a liar either.