Please help!! Have been worrying all day!?

[sagin1235243]

My boyfriend and I have been going out for two years. We broke up last week on Thursday and to be revengeful I did something so terrible and hurtful that it hurt him and his family and friends a lot. Now he tells me that he does not want me to call/email/text him and that he thinks we can never be friends again. I tried sending him so many messages saying I was sorry and it was a lapse of judgement, but he still says that it is my innate personality to do stupid things and control the situation. I want to really show him I can change and become a better person so that he will take me back. How should I do this?*Also, sorry for posting on the wrong forum. I would have posted under Singles/Dating but most of the people there are young teenagers and I would like more mature advice. (I am 22)I realize what I did is immature but I do want to make the situation better. We all make mistakes that seem immature because we didnt use sense to think about it at the time

[ValerieXAccount104897]

You want "mature advice" to a totally IMMATURE SITUATION!

[Dove8039]

You have consequences for your actions. Leave him alone and deal with the fact that you did what you did.

[Jaysmomee5177]

I think you need to stay away from him and leave him alone for a while (at least 2 weeks), then try again and if he still feels the same way....kick yourself in the a$$ and move on....live and learn.

[Messykatttt4678]

You're not going to get mature advice if you don't say what you did.There's a big difference between sticking a salmon filet in his car during a heat wave vs. something that does long term damage to his whole family!If you want mature answers, give a complete question.

[AmosS8994]

You did an immature act because you ARE immature.You need to grow emotionally before you commit to a relationship.If you don't you will only cause pain to those you are with and will end up becoming bitter yourself.

[DianeG]

I am sorry to here. I dont know what you done but if you hurt the whole family then I think you need to straight it out with every body you hurt. Some time it might work and then it may not you just . Give him time .If you want to change start doing it now before you see him again . Good luck. I am over 22

[JustSomeGirl]

Yes, we all make mistakes. If he's not ready to hear your apology as of yet, then you need to respect that and give him a bit of room before you try to approach him again. Explain that you're sorry and that you want to make it better, but you'll give him some space for now. If he still says "Don't call me ever again!" then you need to really respect tha and don't call him ever again. But you can work through his friends, if possible. Talk to one of them and just let them know how sincerely sorry you are and maybe they can get the message to him. Even though you're sorry, there's no guarantee that he'll come back to you, but you sure can hope and try.

[banana64645055]

This is one of those events in your life that will come with a costly lesson. Your boyfriend (or ex?) has been very clear that he does not want you to contact him - period.That is the price you pay for your "lapse in judgement". Respect his request - don't call him, don't e-mail him, don't text him. Leave him alone. Period.The lesson for you is that there are sometimes dire consequences for the things we do in life - as there are for you in this case that you lose a boyfriend and a friend. Learn from it so that next time you handle the situation better.

[MSDAHL7525]

hi there even though it is kinda hard to answer your question since we dont know what you did but i am going to take a shot at it anyways. from the sounds of it he just wants to be left alone and if you keep buging him he will feel like you are stalking him and you wont get anything solved that way you need to just leave him alone for a little bit maybe a week dont communicate with him at all because from the sounds of it he is very mad at you and time heals everything after a week you can call him and just be like i am very sorry for what i did and if he says leave me alone still then just do because obviously it wasnt ment to be good luck and god bless