Does popular culture hate virgins?

[sss a]

I am 32 and i have never been close to a woman... where do i fit into popular culture? Why does the world despise me so much... i now know what it must have felt to be a black man in the 50's ... i feel like i am just not part of society.

[NekoMimi]

Just remember... Popular Culture is a gross exageration of "Normal People".

MANY MANY MANY people I know lie through their teeth about the number and 'spice' of their sexual conquests...

The "Average" person is not a whore...

The AVERAGE person doesn't get laid every day... A different person each time...

MOST people get into a relationship, sleep with that person, and hope that the relationship will last forever...

I have only had 3 partners in my life...

I have been openly Celibate for quite some time...

If I WANTED to go a'whorin' then I could but I don't want to do that to myself...

If I happen to find someone that I am attracted to (In both body AND mind) and I think that it will be a long term relationship then I MIGHT accept a date... But it will be a LONG time before I decide to have sex with anyone...

YOU ARE NOT ALONE...

[Heather D]

You can choose whether or not to have sex. People can't choose their race. Not really the same thing.

After 20 if you are a guy and a virgin people just assume your are a geek or something is wrong with you for never ever even getting it once.

Good luck.

[Owen W]

Popular culture is only the sum of the people who comprise the culture, and no, people don't hate virgins. Especially in the case of virgin guys, people, in general, simply don't care. They are apathetic towards virgins.

We've never actually met, of course, but it seems to me that the hatred you are projecting into the mind of our faceless society actually comes from within yourself. YOU despise the fact that you've never managed to have sex, and your perception of this feeling is of something out there in the world, because admitting you feel this way about yourself is a scary thing.

My advice to you would be to stop thinking about having sex, stop obsessing over the fact that you are technically a virgin, and instead focus on trying to develop an emotional relationship with someone. The fact is that all kinds of guys get laid. Poor guys, fat guys, geeky guys, hell, even homeless guys get laid. The fact that you haven't can only be a consequence of the fact that you are closed to the kind of emotional connection that all humans need. Focus on this, and your problems with your dork will work themselves out.

If this advice is 180 degrees wrong, and all you can think about is not being a virgin anymore, there is no excuse for not getting some. You can get laid in ten minutes with no social skills at all on craigslist (gross, though), or you can hire a hooker legally in Nevada, or you can set up a profile on match.com and lie like hell about your past to get a chick in the sack. Enjoy.

[Baller]

It doesn't hate you, but there does tend to be lots of stereotyping regarding virgins past a certain age...

[french fry]

It does seem like the popular thing-- to be hooking with everybody and their grandma; but it's your choice to "jump in" when YOU are ready. I don't think you're wierd or somehow different from anyone else. You deserve some respect for having standards and won't lower them just because everyone else is. =D

[Dig It]

No, but virgins confuse most of us. I don't understand why someone would wait until marriage to have sex. I also don't understand how you get to 32 without getting laid. Sex is such a part of life for most of us that we don't understand how you can go without it past the age of like, 20. It's probably mostly social influence that does it, but it doesn't mean we hate virgins. We just think you're weird or assume you are very socially awkward. Sorry but I"m just being honest.

[WindWalker]

it is something you should be proud of but unfortunately most of society will mock you So either keep your head high and show your pride of what alot of people couldn't resist the temptation of(that includes me) or do what 98% of guys do is lie about how many you've been with

[~CaT~]

Well, morals don't mean sh!t nemore. Back in the day it was expected of a person to stay "pure" People had family values and stuck with it. But once the 60's came- people let loose after the war and all. And ever since it's been getting less and less of a "big deal" to save yourself until marriage. Now you're looked at as a "weirdo" if you choose to keep your virginity. I lost my virginity at 17, and I don't regret it. If I had waited til marriage, I'd still be a virgin here at 25! Once you lose your virginity, you'll feel different, you'll feel accepted. Because people have sex, it's a basic instinct- ya can't turn it off. So embrace it, let go- give in. You don't want to hold the p*ssy on a pedestal your whole life do ya? You'll be so scared of it, you'll never have sex. You know what I mean? Watch the movie "40 year old virgin" if you haven't already. It may help you to make your decision, on giving in- having sex. Feeling like you belong to this society-- or, world of sex. Don't worry, god will still accept you into heaven.