Husband keeping children's important documents from me?

[SadBecky]

My husband of 10 years left me this past April. We have 2 children (9 & 6). My children have always gone to public school, but now that my husband is out of the picture, my parents are helping me pay for private school for the girls.They have already been tested and accepted, but in order to enroll them, I need their birth certificates, social security cards and immunization records. The problem is, when my husband left, he took all of our important papers, including the items needed to enroll the children in private school.I asked him for them and his response was, "I'll think about it.". The school said they will only hold their spots until July 10th. I can get copies of these documents, but with the upcoming holiday, I don't think I'll get them before the deadline. Why would my soon to be ex not hand over these documents? Wouldn't he want his children to get a good education? Can somebody help me understand what he's trying to accomplish by keeping these papers from me?

[HurricaneHeather8204]

Go get new documents. You can get a certified copy of the birth certificate and you can go to the social security card to get proof of their social security numbers. Don't beg him to give you the information, and don't let him play games with you.

[Happy-26018]

What he's trying to accomplish is simply to make you suffer. Don't play his game. In a calm, rational voice, tell him that he should think fast, because if he continues to withold the documents, the only people he will be hurting are his daughters. Give him no indication that you are troubled in any way.

[KATHYANNC]

when my ex left he destroyed my papers, just go to the town hall you can get copies of all that ,he is doing all that just to hurt you ,not realizing he is hurting his kids kc

[Don1097]

You need to get copies I think from the way you described what he is doing it is a control thing with him he is trying to get back at you and not thinking of your children at all.

[LisaG0389]

Take the police to his house. He will have to hand them over.If you are not willing to take the police, you will have to go get copies.The social security cards will not come in enough time, but you can get birth certificates and shot records easily.Best wishes

[gatorgurl632989]

ok when my stepsons mom dropped him off at our home 5 yrs ago, she did not give us any papers either.We asked her, but she would not give them up.My husband finally went to the social security office and filled out the form to get a new one sent to our address, they will give you a paper with his name and ss# printed out, take this to the school.Also go to the vital statistics office and get another birth certificate it cost us 12.00So now we do not have to ask her for anything again, we have our own papers.And by keeping the papers from you, they feel they have control over you, so going to get your own copy, shows him you can do it yourself without his help.Go to the childrens doctors office and ask for a new shot record they will give you another one.

[LynR]

he is trying to be a control freak, he figures the more he can keep from you the more control he has over you about your children.do your best to stop this , it will get worse as times by . he may ever try to turn the children against you. good luck.

[Indiana6298]

he just wants control, call your lawyer and have them file in family court for you to have access to the papers

[TheQueenHasSpoken]

He is trying to manipulate you and keep you in turmoil. It's a control issue.Tomorrow go to where your children received their vaccinations and ask for replacement cards. Go to the Social Security office and explain the situation. Oh, you will need their birth certificates for that. So find out where you can get walk in service for those. Even though it's a holiday weekend you should be able to get it all done by the 10th.