What does this all mean? I need some advice, I feel so lost, empty, hurt, and confused?

[Lovinlife]

Currently me and my boyfriend of over 2 years are studying abroad together; we're both seniors in college. And he informed me now that he wants a break for the summer. We have just been fighting a lot and he blames it on me. After he told me he wanted a break he told me that he has been smoking the whole time we've been dating and he never had the courage to tell me. He said that is part of where are problems are coming from, but the other part is from my jealous and insecurity. I always felt like I could never trust him. So he wants a break for the summer. He also told me he met someone who made him want to be honest with me, but then he told it was just from seeing lots of couples here and how close they were. He said he wants that with me someday. He says he still cares, but that he doesn't even know who he is anymore and he wants to start over fresh in the fall with me so we can have a better relationship; he says he's doing this for us. I just feel so hurt. What does this all meanHe says the break will make things better, and he wants to be my friend and if I need anything he'll be there. He says he'll stay hang out with me once in a while and hes not going to date anyone else. I am just scared this means we're over for good, and it hurts me so much and scares me that he might not want to get back together. He says he loves me, but he said he also doesn't know anymore because all of the fighting. He also doesnt want to break up til we leave here to avoid drama with others here. He says the break is a good thing, and he wants a future with me, but he also says he doesn't know if he loves me, but he thinks he does... I'm just so confused. It confuses me because he still comes over everyday, and he says this summer he'll still talk to me and hang out once in a while, and he doesn't want to date anyone, but he just wants space and time away from "us," to try and work on himself so we can have what we once did. What do you think this means? I just feel scared

[Nicole4237]

see a psychiatrist

[commchick0516]

It sounds to me like he is trying to be honest with you. You admit yourself that you both have had some problems with fighting a lot lately. Maybe it will help you to have some distance between you so that you can both do some soul searching. Take the time away from him to spend time with close friends and family as much as possible, talk to them and get their input on the relationship between the two of you.

[yuna]

let this guy go to counseling, he looks like a blabbering fool, hurting you.

[Sweety375]

Ok.. i'll give you my story really quick. I joined the army and two weeks after I was there I fell for someone hard, knew he was the one right off the bat. Well this scared him and he ran. Said he could not see himself marrying me. I let him go because my mother told me if you love someone let them go and if they come back its meant to be. We became really good friends and then after a few months of being friends we got back together and were married 2 or 3 months later. We have been married for 6 years now, have two great children and one more on the way. You have to stay positive and let him have his break, if things are meant to be, he will come back. If he doesn't there is somoene out there better for you, and I know thats hard to hear. It will be ok. Just try to be friends and be supportive of him in whatever he does, show him you can trust him and be there as a friend for him. I wish you the best of luck and I hope your story has a happy ending like mine,

[bari7]

It's a polite way of telling you your over. This way when you get home for the summer he'll be able to do what he wants.

[yakusa30008622]

Sweet, a question for real.OK, I am not sure on what he is smoking, but if it is weed, more than likely he is being true with his statements, this sounds to me of a person who is at least attempting to be honest. Most people are not.If it is weed, an you don't smoke, it can be tuff to see where he is coming from, I am not suggesting that you start, some things are not for everyone. See this though, he is on another planet, his thinking is far from what you can understand, you could not feel him if he were standing right next too you.You do have a choice however, you can except the latter, or you can move on. If I were you I would wait a moment, not too long, but a minute or so.tuff situation.good luck & peace.

[SxySparki]

I know its hard but try to embrace the break & see what happens....it will be make or break, but at least you can still move forward which you are not currently doing.....trust me on this.....leave him alone for a bit...don't call or drop by no matter how much you convince yourself you should...each day that goes past, you will get stronger because you will be regaining back your self-control which can get out of whack for us girls when we like a guy...I promise you...give him the space he has requested, it will be good for both of you, then be strong, give it a little time & I assure you you will start to feel more in control of the situation...then you will be more mentally prepared to make another go of it, let him go or let hime let go of you...no matter the outcome at that stage, I can assure you that you will be much better off if you have some time to yourself now anyway...you'll be fine...so give yourself a rest mate, stop over-analysing & take advantage of the time out for yourself coz thats what its all about...looking after yourself....Best wishes...

[jenniferg2225]

he dosen't want to be with you anymore, he's being friendly as to spare your feelings, don't deal with that s*it, move on, sweetie he's already doing so. don't expect much from him.

[SweetlyK]

To be frank with you sweetie, what it means is that he wants to go screw other people but still keep you on a leash. The whole "I'm not gonna date other people and we can still hang out" is just his punk way of saying he wants to do more exploring before getting really serious with you but he knows that if he breaks it off completely, he won't have anyone to go back to when he's ready. I say you either drop him and move on or the two of you figure out how to be together. This is definitely not a good situation to be in.