What does this all mean? I feel so lost, empty, and confused?

[Shygirl6983]

Currently me and my boyfriend of over 2 years are studying abroad together; we're both seniors in college. And he informed me now that he wants a break for the summer. We have just been fighting a lot and he blames it on me. After he told me he wanted a break he told me that he has been smoking the whole time we've been dating and he never had the courage to tell me. He said that is part of where are problems are coming from, but the other part is from my jealous and insecurity. I always felt like I could never trust him. So he wants a break for the summer. He also told me he met someone who made him want to be honest with me, but then he told it was just from seeing lots of couples here and how close they were. He said he wants that with me someday. He says he still cares, but that he doesn't even know who he is anymore and he wants to start over fresh in the fall with me so we can have a better relationship; he says he's doing this for us. I just feel so hurt. What does this all meanHe says the break will make things better, and he wants to be my friend and if I need anything he'll be there. He says he'll stay hang out with me once in a while and hes not going to date anyone else. I am just scared this means we're over for good, and it hurts me so much and scares me that he might not want to get back together. He says he loves me, but he said he also doesn't know anymore because of all the fighting. I want to think that someday he will be head over heels in love with me again, but I don't know. He says it is a good thing, and he wants a future with me, but he also says he doesn't know if he loves me, but he thinks he does... I'm just so confused.It confuses me because he still comes over everyday, and he says this summer he'll still talk to me and hang out once in a while, and he doesn't want to date anyone, but he just wants space and time away from "us," to try and work on himself so we can have what we once did. What do you think this means?

[EthanJ]

It means he really appreciates you and doesn't want to lose you, but he also has problems with the idea of having sex with just one person for the rest of his life.

[princessM]

idk .....i feel lost just like you sorry cant help...

[Alps9713]

Something is bothering him and opine there is time for this remedy.He wants a break that is from his mouth but his heart still needs you.So can you ask yourself whether you really love and cares for him and ifso .. show hands and be frank to each other.Never allows ego and pride to kills your relationship.Cherish what you have and enjoy every moment of liveCheers

[Jesse0895]

maybe he is trying to see if there is other people out there. my girl friend wanted a break. we been on one for 3 months now and it sucks i know how it feels. we still see each other all the time and we been together for almost 2 years now. i love her alot and would do anything for her in the world. just tell him how you feel. try and not fight with him. if you do. just stay clam. when me and my girl fight i try and not raise my voice to her. and keep clam. she doesn like to lose a fight so i am like w.e so i just keep clam. email me if you need more or wanna ask anything. here to help

[Nietzschesco-pilot]

To be honest, I'v felt exactly the same way with my girlfriend. I wanted a break from her and it really is worth while exploring. Sometimes a guy can get overwhelmed in a relationship, especially a long term one, and I think whats best for you now is to allow yourselves time apart. If he's honest enough he wont go off with anyone else (unless you have a whole "Friends" moment - we were on a break -) Still hanging out you can get back in touch with why you started dating in the first place. It sounds to me like if you don't have this break it'll only ruin the relationship further. It's hard for girls cause they think we don't want to be with them anymore, it's not like that really - we just need a little breathing time. Hope this helps :-)

[Stephanie4373]

oh god, heard this before look to give it straight, he's not interested in you as he was before, he's bored and he wants to go and be a fucken whore and you know it, he wants to go meet and go out with other girls before even thinking of sticking to oneI know its hard but let him go why do you want someone like that maybe you need to do something for yourself as well too. this happened to me but I knew what the guy really wanted and everything coming out of his mouth was just trying to be nice comments and excuses, he wants it to be over for now so he can go fuck around but he says a break because he wants you there just in case things don't work out for him............ don't fall for it

[EmmanuelM6716]

The break that he want is to be with an other woman like you suspected , he just want you only as a friend and more than that,