I'm in love with my best friend and she doesn't know it. I can' t stop thinking about her?

[Bleedingheart]

We have been friends for years now. When she went to study abroad, I was so devastated. But I think by her being away has helped remove any doubt in my mind of just how much I care and truly love her. Our IM chat sessions are fun and always something to look forward to (More than four hours each session). During that whole time, I've come to realize that I'll never be able to love someone as much as I love her. I fear that if I tell her, it might ruin our friendship, and I don't want that. Or worse yet may be the fact that she doesn't share the same feelings. She always brings out the best in me, makes me a better person, and help me believe in myself.I am torn. A pain lingers in my heart and it will continue to. it may become part of me ... it seems that way. the scars that she will never see, cut deep into my heart, ripping my strength away, and tearing me apart. I hide my bleeding heart beneath this laughing face. Being near her just makes me weak and lost for words.what do I do

[Justme6674]

Have you seen Made of Honor? She might have feelings for you otherwise wouldn't have spent long time in chatting, etc. .....'Steal the maid'.......that will happen if you don't act.......though it is a nice thing......lol

[scan7552]

You write so well then what's the harm expressing it in person.I do not think your friendship will end.Good Luck.

[Fredajola4268]

In made of honor he doesn't tell her until its too late I think face your fears but tell her that your friendship is important and even if she doesn't feel the same way you still want to be friends. follow your instincts. I hope everything goes good for you.Good Luck,Fredajola

[KhuljaS]

first tell her as a lover.if she does not accaept it then be with her as a friend.

[netdude93]

OK, this is EXACTLY what happened to me. You need to just ask her out and tell her how you truly feel. If she sees that you care about her that much she'll start to care about you more because she knows that there's someone who cares about her more than a friend. If she says no, ask her why. If she doesn't want to tell you, she likes you and doesn't want to admit it. I asked out my current girlfriend 3 1/2 months ago and I get totally upset when we can't hang out. Another thing you can do that worked on me (that she did) is ask out one of her friends (it was my best friend who now is seriously psychotic because he treated her bad and she dumped him, all along trying to make me jealous waiting for me to ask her out, but we're still friends). She'll just be attracted to you more and more the longer you date, and eventually spill her guts to you. 6 months is a long time but now i truly love my girlfriend and we're probably gonna be together through High school (we're in 8th grade) one more thing, if she does say yes, just tell her that you love her and try to make her laugh as much as possible, girls love it if they truly have feelings for you. Trust me, I talk to my girlfriend more than ANYONE else.

[victorariff]

Well, my friend it is good to be or good to fall in love with a friend who is best to you or when you know the girl personally rather than proposing her without knowing each other! It is good to think about her when you care for her & have a feeling for her in your heart but at the same time you must try to make her know this or else the girl might go away from you without knowing your feelings for her & then you will find yourself in severe depression so make it up to her go to her & make her know that you love her tell her you love her & share your feelings that you have for her in your heart & see whether she cares or bothers for you or not.

[Kakarot3550]

I'm in a very similiar situation, except my friend knows how I feel about to an extent; I've yet to really take it to more then a great friendship because I'm very scared. I still share the same feelings as you do, though. When you know someone can bring out the very best in you, it's only normal that your feelings are going to increase rapidly about her, and that's perfectly normal.I think about my friend all of the time. She's just so sacred to me, and I would do anything in my power for her. You sound like you would do the same as well, and if your IM convo's are very cool, then you two can really click. Seriously, I hope you think about tellin her how you feel, because I doubt it'll ruin your relationship. She probably feels a similiar way that you just can't notice at this point. If you actually tell her, it'll bring more things to light.I know the friendship is the most important part, but if you feel as though you two can make each other more happier then right now, a relationship would only help the matter. I can tell you truly love her, and there's no better feeling then to know you feel that way about someone you care deeply about.You never want ot think about the "what if" factor when it comes to things like this. Sure it sucks right now, but if you never tell her at all, you'll always have some sort of regret not lettin her know. Life is about takin risks and understanding that things may not go the way you want, but you always want to exert as good of an effort as you possibly can. The reward is worth the risk in my book.So, please tell her how you feel? I'm very in-sync with this kind of thing, because I'm currently experiencing a very similiar feeling. Just know you're not alone with those feelings, and that you will end up the winner in this situation.I hope that helps.