How can I win his love and relationship back?

[Shygirl2737]

I am 21 and a senior in college, and I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, and he used to be head over heels in love with me. However that faded due to my jealousy and insecurity in the relationship; as well as many fights that we had. He also lied to me about smoking, but I forgive him. We got too attached to each other. He wants a break this summer where we both try to grow up and work on things ourselves; he says become our own person again. He told me he still would like to try it again with me someday, but he thinks we both need some time to put everything behind us and start over. I am worried that he is going to fall out of love with me. He says he still wants to be my friend, and as of right now he still hangs out with me everyday because we are studying abroad together. I admit that in some instances I was extremely childish and I should have trusted him better. I don't want to lose him, how can I win him back? What is the best way to handle this situation?I feel like who we became in the relationship isn't really us. It's like we got too attached and jealous that we started to become very mean to one another. However I remember what it was like before all of this, and it was something really good and strong, and I want that again. I know what I need to work on, and he does too, but I am just afraid that I lost his love altogether already and I will not have another chance. I don't want to lose him for good, and I am willing to change what I need to. How do I not push him away even further??? How do I make the best of this situation?

[PaulFran]

Well your man is being honest and upfront. At your age and time of life yall need to explore other things. What can you do? Tell the man you love him and care for him and will be here. But don't expect you to wait forever. Give it time and give him space and if he comes back it was meant to be and if not move on and enjoy life.

[sv2115]

How can I win his love and relationship back? By not repeating things responsible for the present situation.

[casino]

you dont win him back. This is not a game. people want to be together or they dont. If you learn to deal with your jealousy and insceurity you will have much better relationships in the future. Your boyfriend cares about you but doesnt want to be with you. Face up to it. You will get over it in time.

[DC617473]

I think you should take his advice and just let things simmer over the Summer. There is an expression which goes something like you have to let a bird have its freedom and, if you do, it will return to where it should be. Be brave and give him the summer. If it is meant to be, it will be and it is better to break as friends rather than let it carry on and risk potentially hating each other. He sounds like a sensible young man and I really do think you should listen to him.