How do I teach my 1st grade boy how to deal with his bossy and sometimes nasty

[myboy]

friends? He has a personality that is a little sensitive and is now becoming quick to anger as he is getting older. He loves to have fun with his friends but seems to be having more trouble dealing with being told what to do during their pretend play and he really freaks out when a kid is a little mean (which at this age is happening more). I want him to be able to go with the flow a little better. Any help?

[elmo]

No worries say this it'll be sure to help. " They are probably jealous of you. Jealousness is actually kind of flattery. Just ignore it hun. You know you are a good wonderful child and whatever mean things they try to say to you, know that isn't a bit true. They can't hurt you. Sticks and stones may break my bones but names can never hurt me. If they are mean to you then say that and tell me anytime you need to." That usually works. My momma said this when my 5th grade teacher was verbly abusing my class. I was then transfered. (I'm just like your son.)

[semoangel70]

My son was always the kind that hated being told what to do by anyone and if a friend told him something he didnt like it was trouble. We started telling him that when you were with friends and playing then you were all a team and as a team you had to work together to get it done. When someone would tell him to do something or act mean we told him to repeat that to them and suggest something else instead. Trust me there were still plenty of yelling matches in the back yard but after he said it enough some of his other friends picked up on it and started saying it as well.

[starwhitedwarf]

I was watching a program today with chinese kids. It was a class of kids and they had to vote for the class monitor. The kids had to put up a talent show.
One of the class mates was telling his friend that when one of the rivals go up, to start booing and to shout out it was terrible.
The girl started crying ( of course, she is a child and beeing bood is a matter of sensitivity to a child). On the other hand, the one who instigated the booing ( and he did apologise to the girl) turned up to be such a natural, he came across as a strong character.

If I had kids, I would come up with excercises that would allow him/her to analize other's behaviours and think up appropriate
responses. I am sure that there are games that one can come up with that is appropriate to the age of the child.

[Allison R]

maybe you should have a play group with him and his "not so close friends" so you can watch and plan fun activities that everybody would like and could keep them from fighting.